Putting 'happiness' in the 'first things'

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We often hear that happiness isn’t something we can control — it’s something we experience. Yet, some powerful books challenge this notion and suggest that we can, in fact, shape our happiness through conscious effort. Among them are Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, The 80/20 Principle by Richard Koch, and First Things First by Stephen R. Covey.

The shared wisdom from these works is simple but profound: put your happiness in the “first things.”
These “first things” are the reasons you work, strive, and care — the pursuits and people that truly matter to you.

The 80/20 of Happiness

Just as 80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts, a similar pattern holds true for happiness. Most of your joy likely comes from a small set of activities, moments, or people — and, conversely, most of your stress or dissatisfaction stems from a few specific sources.
So, identify when you were at your happiest and do more of that. Likewise, recognize the moments that consistently drain you and reduce your time around them.

Building the Habit of Optimism

Happiness isn’t a one-time choice; it’s a practice. By intentionally looking for the silver lining, you train your mind to focus on hope and optimism. It might feel unnatural at first — in the first week or even the first month — but persistence turns positivity into habit.

The End Note

In the long run, happiness doesn’t just follow success — it fuels it. When you prioritize your joy and well-being first, success becomes a natural byproduct.

So, put happiness in your first things — and let the rest fall into place.

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